What Really Causes Desire Discrepancy In Relationships
But desire discrepancy isn’t always about one person wanting sex more often than the other does. Sometimes, according to holistic sex coach Pamela Joy, M.A., it’s actually just a matter of two people having different types of desire—aka different ways of accessing turn-on. “Culturally we tend to think there’s just one model, and that’s I get sexual stimulus, and I’m totally ready for sex. That model is called spontaneous desire,” Joy explains....