These people are known for being complex and thoughtful, and they have a deep concern for doing the right thing and helping others. They’re creative, imaginative, and able to turn their ideals into real solutions, according to Blaylock-Johnson. They’re not just dreamers—they’re doers, she says. She adds that they’re also characterized by being able to manage emotions with logic, making space for both. Somewhat perfectionists, INFJs want their relationship to be a match made in heaven. And according to Blaylock-Johnson, this can lead to challenges with confrontation and holding unrealistic expectations for their partners (or even themselves). “Their introverted nature may keep them from making the first move,” she adds, “looking for signs even if there are other indicators that someone may be a good match.” Overall, though, INFJs are sensitive to the needs of their partners, attentive listeners, and excellent communicators, she says. Just be aware they can have a hard time accepting criticism and dealing with conflicts, she notes, since they tend to take the role of peacemaker. That said, she does note that ISFJs can be a more challenging match since the main focus for the ISFJ is stability, traditions, and a sense of consistency, making them less amenable to change. INFJs, on the other hand, “are focused on making the world a better place through reducing suffering and living by values rather than the ‘way it’s been done,’” she says. Blaylock-Johnson says ESFPs, ESTPs, and ESTJs can also be a challenging match, with the overarching theme being INFJs may not mesh with an extrovert who is less intuitive. Overall, regardless of who they’re with, INFJs can be ultra-sensitive, reluctant to open up, and hold very high standards. All of these things can play out in a relationship, but with awareness and effort, they can absolutely be overcome. It helps that INFJs are thoughtful and good communicators, so these potential rifts certainly don’t have to be deal-breakers. “When good things are happening, this can seem like a match made in heaven with true understanding and a deep connection,” she says. But when times are tough, “the opposite can be true, with the potential for defensiveness and withdrawal on both sides.”
