If you want to give it a try, here are a few expert-recommended ways to try to have a full-body orgasm: To do it, Isadora said you must pull the energy from your genitals throughout the entire body using the “microcosmic orbit.” It’s similar to semen retention in practice, but people of any gender and body type can practice edging. It can be particularly difficult for people with penises who usually have an easier time being stimulated to orgasm, but it can be done with practice and produce powerful, full-body pleasure sensations when timed right. You can use a penis or a firm sex toy to reach the cervix and stimulate it, usually through a vigorous thrusting motion. Importantly though, the cervix can be very sensitive and may even hurt when it’s hit initially, so it’s important to work up to cervical stimulation. Starting out with stimulating the clitoris and getting the vagina aroused and opened up is important, and it might help to have a regular clitoral orgasm first before trying for the cervical orgasm through penetration. (Here’s our full guide to having a cervical orgasm.) To have an energy orgasm, you’ll have to really commit. Set aside some time and create a cozy, sensual, romantic bedroom environment to help get yourself in the mood. Then follow these steps, per Grace’s instruction: “Think of your body as a 30-gallon container. If you breathe very little during partner sex or masturbation, you raise very little energy—perhaps the amount that might fill a coffee cup. If you breathe more fully and deeply than you usually do from the beginning of a sexual experience all the way through to orgasm, you fill up your entire container. With all that energy, you are much more likely to experience a longer, deeper, expanded, extended orgasm.” But in tantric sex practices, using your voice is thought to be another way to move your energy. Using a lower-pitched voice moves energy down your body toward your genitals, and using higher pitches moves energy upward. Try using your sexual noises as part of how you’re drawing sexual energy upward in your body to get that full-body feeling. “If you think orgasm is chiefly a physical experience (e.g., a sexual climax attained by stimulation of the genitals and other erogenous zones), then an orgasm would qualify as full-body if you felt physical sensations in a large percentage of your body,” she explains. “If you have a more expanded view of orgasm (e.g., a release of tension and expansion of energy flowing through the body/mind and connecting you to spirit), your full-body orgasm experience might include a physical tingling accompanied by a huge emotional release and a feeling of oneness with nature.” She adds, “Tingling, vibrating, expansive sensations in nongenital body parts, gigglegasms, crygasms, blissgasms, and feelings of expansiveness, peak experience, peace, and connection are all common.” Remember, practice makes perfect. Even if you aren’t able to have a full-body orgasm right away using these techniques, all of them should bring an elevated and more pleasurable experience to your sexual activities. Enjoy the ride, no matter the outcome. With her warm, playful approach to coaching and facilitation, Kelly creates refreshingly candid spaces for processing and healing challenges around dating, sexuality, identity, body image, and relationships. She’s particularly enthusiastic about helping softhearted women get re-energized around the dating experience and find joy in the process of connecting with others. She believes relationships should be easy—and that, with room for self-reflection and the right toolkit, they can be. You can stay in the loop about her latest programs, gatherings, and other projects through her newsletter: kellygonsalves.com/newsletter
