“It’s better to refrain from intercourse when you have a UTI because the penis can rub against the urethra, irritating it more,” says functional medicine gynecologist Wendie Trubow, M.D. The same is true for tongues, toys, and fingers coming into contact with the vulva or vagina. “It shouldn’t make the infection worse, especially if the woman urinates after intercourse, but it may worsen the symptoms.” You only really need to hold off if you’re experiencing bloody urine or suprapubic (lower abdominal) pain, in which case you should see a doc ASAP, adds Richardson. Anal sex might also be a more pleasurable option because it lowers the risk of contact with the urethra. You can also explore other forms of sexual touch that don’t involve the vulva area, including giving oral sex to your partner but not receiving it. Just make sure to pee before and after having sex to flush out as much of the bacteria from the urethra as possible, and take breaks during sex if you feel the need to pee. According to some reports, between 25 and 42%2 of the time, the body can resolve a minor UTI on its own (drinking lots of water helps), but other times you may need a dose of antibiotics. Untreated, UTIs can turn into painful and dangerous kidney infections, so you should head to the doc if you suspect you have one. To prevent UTIs, Trubow recommends:
